As the church that serves the countryside, we commit ourselves to share Christ's love in action through our congregation, community, and the world.
Learn to Listen
We are supposed to be living in an age of communication. Satellites are in our skies, reflecting words and pictures to radios and television sets. We send countless emails, text messages and post on social media, and human voices fill the air in a ceaseless drone.
The effective speaker is a powerful person in today's society, and communication is lauded as a panacea for many of our problems. So, we are encouraged to improve our abilities to get our point across and effectively state and support our position.
It is good to be able to articulate our views, but there is another communication skill that is equal in value and vital to the worlds well being, one that is very often lost in the babble of voices wanting to be heard. This is the priceless art of listening.
The listening that we have become accustom to today is often a faint shadow of the real thing. Because there are so many voices and sounds that clamor for our attention, we have learned to turn a semi deaf ear to much of what we hear.
Effective listening, of course, is more than just being quiet. If it is done well, it is an active and demanding spiritual labor. To listen well demands our full attention not only to words but to the inflections, expressions, body movements, the things left unsaid, and any other signals the person may be sending out.
Effective listening requires empathy, the ability to put ourselves in the position of those who are speaking to us, to feel as they feel.
Good listening demands understanding of others, their desires, their hopes, fears and problems. We are always so quick to judge and slow to understand.
If given our choice, we would probably choose a less fearsome world. We would prefer a world where weeds did not infest the lawn, where there was no pain, where all our plans worked out and where wisdom was not overshadowed by ignorance. We would like not to age. We would like our muscles not to wear out and our cells not to deteriorate. We would like to see a world where there was no hunger, where there was enough money to pay the bills and where there were enough toys to fill our idle moments. But we are aware that this type of world doesn't exist. Life is not perfect. However, if it was perfect we would miss out on one of our greatest needs which is our need for others. If we were so independent, another arm would be far less welcome. If we weren't subject to fevers, we would not appreciate a cool hand on our forehead. If the world met every need before we asked for it or felt we needed it, we'd miss the gratitude when somebody sees our emptiness and fills it.
One writer asked the questions, "What do we live for if not to make life less difficult for each other?" It is in that very fact - of making life less difficult - that we find love and meaning in life.
One author relates the following story. A family whose father was out of work, found that their refrigerator was growing empty. The parents despaired of what to feed the family in the coming days. One night, the mother came home to find the refrigerator full, the shelves filled, and a roast in the oven, all provided by a neighbor next door.
"How could you know?" the mother asked the neighbor, now feeling the warmth of being loved and cared for. While life had been breaking into pieces around her, someone had become aware of the family's need. The feeling of having loved was a far richer gift than the empty shelves had been a trial.
A life problem, like a mathematical problem is something to be solved according to some formula, set aside, and then forgotten. That of course, is what we hope for in life.
Sometimes, we pray under our breath and say "Let life not be too hard today". We look forward to a day when problems will level off. We seem to think that often a challenge has passed, a sickness has passed, or after the closets are ordered, there will come a time of peace. Not so!
Problems are a part of our human condition, the ebb and flow of a world which we are only visiting. There is absolutely no escape from them. Helen Keller, who ought to know, is quoted as saying about this security; "It is mostly superstition. Security does not exist in nature, nor do the children of men as a whole experience it. Avoiding danger is no safer is the long run than outright exposure. Life is a daring adventure or it is nothing".
But sometimes the danger of living can overwhelm us. We wonder if we can manage our problems or if they will manage us. We possibly could handle them if they would come one at a time and give us sufficient breaks, but they often flood us. We frantically search our resources and seem to come up empty.
This is when we need to remember the message of the Gospel of Jesus. To God, nothing in impossible and we are not alone. We were not born to fail. He who knows us longer than we can remember can give us back to ourselves however much evidence we can collect to the contrary. He knows that we have the power within us to meet every problem with His help. Eleanor Roosevelt used to carry the following prayer in her purse, "Our Father, who set restlessness in our hearts and made us all seekers after that which we cannot fully find, keep us at tasks too hard for us, that we may be driven to thee for strength". We must never doubt that He can deliver.
Pastor Hans Lillejord
Looking Beyond the Headline
There was a time when we knew our neighbor next door, when all the people in our home town were known by their first names. A time when the news of a birth or a death, a marriage or a divorce, where sickness and good fortune were passed from mouth to mouth, door to door, until everyone in the area rejoiced in joy or wept in sadness and grief.
When the church bells rang out they told of a soul which had departed, all stopped to ask for whom the bells tolled; the farmer in the field brought his team to a standstill to count the rings, which told the number of years of him or her whom death had taken from us. The housewife baking bread, the carpenter in his shop, the blacksmith at his anvil all counted the message of the bells and knew which soul had departed.
All that was a long time ago, but things have changed. Our new world is much more complex. The printed paper as well as the electronic media have replaced the message of the bells. We know so much more about what is going on in the world. However, distance separates us from the emotional effect of tragic events. We sit quietly and with comfort in our soft chairs as we read the headlines. Half a world away. A volcano has swept away a few dozen villages and thousands of people from the face of the world. We watch starving children die in the streets of Haite, school children die at the hands of a crazed killer, a female attacked, and we casually turn the page of our newspaper or click the remote for the T.V. to catch the scores of the local high school football game or amuse ourselves as make believe-actors perform make-believe tragedies on a make believe stage.
What is your Motivating Force? Nearly all the things we do in life are brought about by one thing or another. This includes our basic needs such as eating and sleeping as well as work and recreation. All of these things occur because some inner or outer motivation moves us to action. The challenge for us is to acquire control over these impulses so that we do the right thing for the right reasons.
There are a number of people who regret their influence and positions in life because they sought after them for the wrong reasons. Sometimes we fool ourselves into believing that our actions are for a wonderful cause when, in fact, the true motivation was for a dishonest or unethical reason. When that seems to be the case, we usually discover that it is for one of two reasons - money or power.
A newspaper columnist once observed that the desire for power leads the list of motivating forces. "Men will do for power what they will not do for money", he was quoted as saying. Still, money is still the most popular motivating force. There are many more people who go astray choosing the almighty dollar than there are who falter in search of power.
I have spoken of the need for a strong work ethic and the value of doing honest work. A most important point to remember is that if we work solely for a paycheck without a sense of purpose and achievement, we probably will suffer a sense of unhappiness.
In the Bible, praise is given not to the strong man who "takes a city, but to the stronger man who rules with the spirit". (Proverbs 16:32) The stronger man is he who exercises' control over his personal habits, his thoughts, his speech and his actions. We call this self-discipline.
Many benefits come from the marvelous world of self-discipline. It is essential, if we are to renew ourselves, to become aware of the full range of our abilities. Seneca said, "most powerful is he who has himself in his power". It does take self-discipline to be able to understand ourselves, to know who we are, and to live with ourselves. The author of
Self-Renewal said, "It is not only the most difficult thing to know one's self, but the most inconvenient one, too". Is there any wonder that by middle life many persons are accomplished fugitives from themselves?
But to know ourselves - to discover the discipline of self control- will give benefits not only to ourselves but to others as well. A successful family demands self-discipline from all its members, not just some. Without the give and take that self-control allows, many families would be harmed. If we look at things from a historical perspective, the majority of desires and appetites that have degraded society would have shrunk into insignificance if there had been self-disciplines, self-respect and self-control.
The wisdom and glory for the Lord are due in part because of His ability to see events from an "eternal perspective" and judge their consequences by that much more accurate measure. We do not have the ability to see things as God does. However, we can in a very modest way make use of the attribute of Perspective. This ability to see things from different perspective is one characteristic which separates us from all other creatures, and the "extended perspective" is one of our most useful vantage points.
When the farmer plows a straight furrow he is not usually watching the ground immediately in front of him. He is often focused on a fixed point at the end of the field to get a perspective on his work and to keep his rows straight.
The draftsman at his desk, the carpenter at this building craft find that the longer the measuring device, the more accurate the calculation.
The most effective way for an explorer to make his way through uncharted country is by pointing to some distant destination. If he would concentrate only on the area right at his feet, he will find himself traveling in circles.
When the ancient navigators began to take their bearings from the far perspective of the stars, new worlds began to open up to them
The idea of "long perspective" is more than a handy tool for guidance and navigation, more than an implement for agriculture or construction. When we apply it to our lives, a "lengthy perspective" can give us some very valuable direction and wisdom.
Very seldom do I feel that I've made bad decisions from taking too long to make a decision based upon a "long perspective". Usually, it is the other way around. Usually we do not look for enough ahead to see the implications of our actions. We so often get driven by our immediate needs and actions. we can waste so much time in numerous side paths and distractions which seem important at the time but don't contribute to our progress.
Along with fall comes the opening of the football season. In our state, as well as many others, we have a new wave of excitement as we follow and cheer on the favorite teams. Most of us have some kind of athletic program that we follow or participate in. Most young people participate in some kind of athletic program and spectator sports occupy a large amount of time for so many adults.
There are so many positive results that can come from athletic competition. The rewards of disciplined practices, the thrill of being a part of a team and the wisdom gained from winning and losing are benefits that may stay with us all our lives.
Then is another important lesson that athletes must learn. Regardless of your athletic powers and your natural ability, every individual who has aspirations to succeed in the world of competitive sports must first listen to a coach - to listen to a person who has been there before, to a person whose judgments are born of long seasons of preparation and experience. It is the coach's advice and counsel that must be listened to before the noisy urgings of the crowd and one's own instincts.
Life demands of us, this same lesson. Those of us who participate in this contest of loving must also learn to heed the voice of the coach: our success and happiness depend on it.
So we turn to the great mentor of life for guidance concerning the rules and strategies for success in this existence. Those who knew Jesus referred to Him as the good Shepherd. This title was used because of the Savior's wise counsel and admonitions. Just as a shepherd would lead His flock to green pastures and sufficient water, so , too, will spreading the words of the master teacher lead us to a more abundant life.
Not An Idea, But An Action!
Fred Speakman in his book "Love Is Something You Do" suggests that the word "love" is really a verb and not a noun. In other words "Love" is not simply a feeling, a thing, some kind of inanimate object, but, rather, an action, something accomplished, something done.
The word "love" in the New Testament is, among other things, a verb. As it is used by Jesus in the New Testament, it almost always has something to do with specific actions or deeds. To love our neighbor as Jesus describe it, was to feed the hungry, clothe the naked or visit the sick. To love our enemies is to pray for him, and treat him with kindness, and even turn the other cheek. And to love God is to keep his Commandments.
In each case, love is defined in terms of an action. Christian Love" then is not only a principal, a thought, or expression. To be properly defined it must go beyond theory to active demonstration and application. The first and great Commandment that Jesus taught us was to "Love the Lord your God with all your heart, all your mind and all your soul" and the second Commandment is to "love your neighbor as yourself." These are mandates to act. It is no more possible to truly love God and man without action than to transmit light by memorizing a fact of nature.
The divine love of God toward us, his children, is also based on action. Because of love, the world was created, the stars and the planet put in their orbits; and man (us) started on the path to eternal life. It was the great love of Christ that had led Him to the cross to act out in pain the greatest demonstration of universal affection. With this in mind, let us remember that all of our most charitable feelings and intentions toward our fellow humans weigh less than one "act" of love. Thoughts and words of love require action, works of love. Love is truly a verb.
Pastor Hans Lillejord
Remember The Living
In my opinion, one of the most harsh orders that Jesus ever made was "Let the dead bury the dead. Matt 8:22". It may appear even more insensitive as we prepare for the God and Country celebration here at New Sweden in which we memorialize those who gave lives for our country. However, it was not out of disrespect for the dead but, rather, out of respect for the living that prompted the Savior's words. That is, respect for the simple truth of life that service rendered to the dead is of little value to them. Post mortem love, kindness shown to those who are now absent, is like the rain of September which arrives too late to save the withered crops from the drought of summer.
The love we offer to the dead- the eulogies, the wreaths, the epitaphs does little to bless their lives. We remember them - as we should- and remember them with great fondness. But how much sweeter would be their memory if we had shared those thoughts with them while they were yet alive. We very often withhold our encouragement and affection for the living, waiting for the right moment to express our love- waiting, procrastinating, making busy with our lives with the irrelevancies of life - until at last the moment is gone. The bouquets of flowers we had thought to deliver to a friend must now be delivered as a wreath; the appreciation that might have confronted the aging parent or spouse will become a funeral eulogy; the undelivered expressions of love that could have been given to those we knew must now become the epitaphs on gravestones.
Let us remember the living while there is still time. Perhaps someone in a nursing home waits for a visit that we have been putting off. We may owe someone an unpaid debt of kindness - a friend, parent, former teacher, a sister, a brother - a debt that will remain unpaid unless we act now.